Finding the Courage to Soar
"I think I would enjoy [insert new career/hobby/idea here], but I'm not sure I'd be very good at it." How about, "I know I'd be good at [same career/hobby/idea], but I don't have the means to make it happen." Have you ever said this to yourself, or even to others? It's time to stop! If you believe in yourself, you can make it happen.
Note: The images in this article are from Pixabay, and I have linked back to their original authors.
Not sure where to start? That's okay, we've all been there. Quite often the only thing truly holding us back is our fear. It's natural to be intimidated by new things, and to be scared of failure. Rejection hurts, plain and simple. Most of us have dealt with rejection in some form over the years, and likely aren't keen on facing it again.
So, now it's time for some brutal honesty. I dealt with that rejection. A lot. More than I care to think or talk about. But if I can help someone else keep on keeping on, it is totally worth it.
After choosing to stay home with my family for close to ten years, I decided I wanted to find some sort of work. I knew it needed to be from home, as my family still needs me here. I thought it would be easy enough, since so many more remote options exist nowadays.
I couldn't have been more wrong. Oh, I found the job opportunities alright. It was what I found once I applied that hit me like a ton of bricks; no one wanted to hire me. I couldn't totally fault them. I am still earning my degree, and I did have an employment gap. It didn't matter why the gap was there, only that it was. But that is another post for another day. I'm here to tell you how I fought through that, and how you can too.
There is no crazy, super-secret method. You simply have to make up your mind not to be afraid anymore. As tough as I know it is, don't let the fear and rejection consume you. Keep putting yourself out there, and keep fighting to be heard. I can say that when I was done letting my fear control me, I just "knew." Something flickered inside me, and I was ready at last. Only you can decide when you're ready to take charge, but having a network to support you sure helps.
I have an amazing husband and family who love to tell me that they believe in me. When I was excited about something I found, my husband was excited with me. When I was bummed out because of another "no," he was there to let me vent and tell me that I'd find something, and things would be okay. Find your network, don't go through this alone.
Got your network? Great! What about a social network? You're gonna need one of those, too. I was not the social media type. I'd never used it for personal or professional reasons. But it got to the point that everything I was trying to accomplish, I needed social media to do. I bit the bullet. I have learned how to use social media to build my professional reputation, and guess what? It works. Shocker, I know.
You can, in fact, have social media accounts that are for professional development only. If you are like me and personal social media just isn't for you, don't shun professional social media too. Sites such as LinkedIn and even Facebook can really help you build a network. But you're going to have to push aside your fear. Yep, there it is again, rearing its ugly head. Fear.
It takes more than just having the profile, you've got to have the content. And you've got to share the content. If all you think is, "well it doesn't matter if I post this or not, no one will read it," you're not going to get far. Maybe they won't read it, at least at first. But I promise they will eventually. You will never get to where you want to be if you aren't willing to put yourself out there and take risks.
Do you think you've got what it takes to squash your fears and soar? Of course you do, because you're awesome! Now you need a plan. Only you can make your plan, and it'll be different for everyone depending on what you're trying to accomplish.
My goal was to start a blog. I've wanted to for years, but my old buddy fear kept me from doing it. I finally launched my blog this week, and the plan I made helped the entire process go much more smoothly.
The first thing I did was make a list of things I needed to do: research platform options, look into legalities, estimate my startup costs, etc. I also needed to have an idea of what I wanted to blog about, and narrow it down to similar topics. Then came the fun part- taking my leap and building my blog. Hitting the "publish" button gave me butterflies. It is scary and exciting, but it is mine. I'm doing it. And nothing feels better than that.
You can do it, whatever your "it" is. You can succeed. All you need to do is find the strength to face that fear and let it go. It won't be easy, and you won't be an overnight success. But the satisfaction you'll get knowing you're kicking and clawing your way to the top will be worth every second it takes to get there.
So what do you think, are you ready? Let me know how I can help!